I have to be honest with you, I’m more than a little tired of hearing myself complain about how cold it is outside, how rough this winter’s been, and how much I want to sarcastically comment “well, aren’t you lucky?” on every tropical picture floating around social media.
A day hasn’t passed that I haven’t woken up and obsessively checked the weather forecast and when that
stupid groundhog announced 6 more weeks of winter, I contemplated abandoning all that I know and love by hopping on a plane to Mexico with no date to be returned.
Call it want you want but i’ve been in a winter RUT — and I just know I can’t be alone on this one?!
There’s a quote from a book that I love:
When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves. – Viktor E. Frankl, Mans Search for Meaning
If you’re not familiar with Viktor E. Frankl, he was a psychiatrist and holocaust survivor. Whenever I re-read this book or hear this quote, it’s all I need to keep me grounded.
He survived the holocaust and throughout still managed to find peace within in himself by accepting what he could not change and i’m whining about my winter?
talk about perspective, people.
A situation I can’t control? I’d say the weather is high on that list.
Since winter isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, I’ve created a 7 day winter warm up to challenge and change my perspective. I’m hoping an assignment a day will keep these winter blues away — Contact me here to be added to the list for email updates! OR you can play along here
And tell me in the comments… what are you doing this winter to keep your mind, body, and spirit warm?
Thanks for reading!
Amy K Hall
Life is crazy. Unpredictable, unexpected, unplanned things happen all the time. Things out of our control, out of our scope of understanding will continue to happen because well, that’s just this crazy little thing called life.
What we do have the power to change is how we recover and how we allow these unpredictable and unchangeable occurrences to dictate how we lead our lives.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
-Viktor E. Frankl
I am not suggesting that if you simply choose a different response, you will be free and happy and therein lies the secret to a successful recovery or rebound from outside occurrences in which we have no control.
Although, I do believe it is a start, it’s not the answer and it’s never that easy.
We know that.
What I am suggesting is that maybe the secret to not just our personal success but our success as global citizens is how long we allow ourselves to experience vs dwell in our outside occurrences.
When we dwell, we live in these outside occurrences until we are numb, as if they are the only truth and when it’s true for us, we lose the possibility of change.
However, when we experience, really truly experience, we feel until we are moved to take a stand, make an impact and on the smaller scale of ourselves, to simply recover.
It’s that automatic mode you go into when you have a reaction to something. You know… usually it triggers when you’re angry, upset or feeling vulnerable.
Truthfully, most of us probably aren’t all that self-aware to even know for sure.
Fortunately, I know that if I’m feeling vulnerable, I build walls higher than the Trango Towers, longer than the Great Wall and faster than you could contract a professional to do it. I say fortunately because I do feel fortunate that I know this about myself.
Sometimes, I am 100% ok with my default and wouldn’t change a thing. That’s probably because I can be downright stubborn.
Other days, when I’m feeling like an adult, I try to push myself to react differently and work on changing my default. Because, well, things just always turn out better or rectify themselves sooner when I don’t build a wall.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning