assumptions are gross

I take a lot of pride in my perspective on life. I’ve worked really hard to be where I am today — mentally emotionally and physically. Even still, I have a lot of work to do.

People often compliment my outlook and demeanor. It’s always funny to me when people comment on certain characteristics as if to say “you’re so lucky you were born that way. There is no hope for me. Im screwed.” because, truthfully, I wasn’t born this way. There are a lot of things I am by nature but there are also a lot of things I am not. 

I am not an extrovert by nature; I step out of my comfort zone everyday to get there. I once went to a sleepover and said nothing. I honestly can’t think of single sentence I spoke that night. 

I am not an optimist by nature; I step out of my comfort zone everyday to get there. Trust me… as quick as I can tell you the glass is half full, I can point out every scratch, chip, crack or dent. 

I am not peaceful by nature; I step out of my comfort zone everyday to get there.    Not to say that I enjoy conflict but I am an aires. I’m a fire sign. I like challenging people and I definitely push buttons – just ask my fiance. Actually, just ask anyone who knew me before my mid-twenties… or yesterday. 

I guess there are two points to all of this. 

  1. Don’t ever assume that people havent worked really hard (in some capacity) to get to where they are today. Assumptions are gross and you’re more than likely always wrong.
  2. You can make a conscious decision about who you want to be in life. It won’t be easy and it will require daily practices to get there but the good news? It’s possible.

If I’ve piqued your interest and you’d like to learn more, I’d love to chat. Feel free to leave a comment or contact me here.

Thanks for reading!

how do you meditate?

I’ve noticed some people are very rigid not just in their practice of meditation, but in their definition of meditation.

Truthfully, It means something different to everyone. It’s not important that you do it a certain way. It’s just important that you do it. Why? Well, because science says so. There are studies that prove mediation can improve your focus, lower your blood pressure and even alter your genes. Who doesn’t want that?

The goal is to think of nothing, give your mind rest, and truly, if for only 20 minutes a day, be in the present. Whatever gives you that rest and clears the noise in your head, do more of it!

I have friends that paint their nails, hold a plank, dance, or sing as their meditation. Although I prefer the standard 20 minutes of sit-in-silence-and-think-of-nothing-technique, I’ll try just about anything.

How do you meditate?

more on fear

“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”

-A Course in Miracles

 

That sounds nice. To feel so sure about where you will end up that you lose all anxiety sounds like a dream, and it’s true.

What I am realizing now is that it’s worth taking the time to get really clear and confident about what we want to achieve. Through this clarity, we lose the fear that tells us we can’t reach our goals. Fear, after all, is the only thing holding us back.

fear of blogging

It sounds so silly when you say the words aloud or read them on the screen.

My name is Amy and I have a fear of blogging. There really should be a support group for this. Fear.

I have had a massive fear of writing for over a year now. The truth is, I’ve probably spent more time customizing blog templates than I’ve actually spent writing. I’ve definitely spent more time thinking about writing than putting pen to paper er… fingers to keys.

Why? Fear. Fear of failure, fear of judgement, fear of invisibility and even fear of success, oddly enough.

Oh, I have every excuse you can imagine in my back pocket, if you need it.

I have no time. If I’m going to blog, I need a really well designed website. I should probably write for 6 months without anyone ever seeing it to find my voice, first. I should attend a writing workshop. I haven’t pinned enough writing tips on my pinterest board. Im not ready. No one wants to read what I have to say. Who do I think I am writing and expecting other people to care? I’ll do it tomorrow. That’s how I’ll spend my weekend. I wonder if there is anything new on my facebook feed? I think I’ll look at that instead.

I am a bottomless pit of excuses.

What did I do differently today?  Well, love crept in and I capitalized on it.

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
— John Lennon

I chose love.

How has fear held you back? and any strategies for overcoming it are always awesome. Answer in the comments below!

Thanks for reading and welcome to the blog.

XO

Amy