experience vs. dwelling

Life is crazy. Unpredictable, unexpected, unplanned things happen all the time. Things out of our control, out of our scope of understanding will continue to happen because well, that’s just this crazy little thing called life.

What we do have the power to change is how we recover and how we allow these unpredictable and unchangeable occurrences to dictate how we lead our lives.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

-Viktor E. Frankl

I am not suggesting that if you simply choose a different response, you will be free and happy and therein lies the secret to a successful recovery or rebound from outside occurrences in which we have no control.

Although, I do believe it is a start, it’s not the answer and it’s never that easy.

We know that.

What I am suggesting is that maybe the secret to not just our personal success but our success as global citizens is how long we allow ourselves to experience vs dwell in our outside occurrences.

When we dwell, we live in these outside occurrences until we are numb, as if they are the only truth and when it’s true for us, we lose the possibility of change.

However, when we experience, really truly experience, we feel until we are moved to take a stand, make an impact and on the smaller scale of ourselves, to simply recover.

less is more

On Monday, I tried something new. Instead of wishing for more hours in the day, I gave myself until noon to finish my to do list and I did it.

Truthfully, If I had more hours in the day, I’d probably sleep more, take longer showers, eat more, drink more; I’d do none of the things still on my list, prompting me to think, I wish I had more hours in the day. 

When you have surprise visitors who call you when they’re just a few blocks away, you manage to miraculously piece together your apartment in record time. When someone is presented with less time in this world, they start full charge through their bucket list.

The real solution isn’t more; It’s maximizing what you have and I’m not just talking about time.