i guess nike was right all along

I was once scared of blogging. (I know…) You can read about it here. 

Since overcoming that, I’ve been fascinated with discovering the secret formula for kickstarting a good habit or, really, starting anything.

We all know some things are good for us, yet,  we can’t always bring ourselves to do them. For example, meditation, theres enough research telling us that this is without a doubt good for us but what’s the secret for getting started?

I look at people who are ridiculously healthy & energized and think…how did they do that? How did that happen to them? Oh, you mean they ate healthier, exercised, put in the work, and that’s the result? 

Yes. Just like that.

Turns out, there is no magic formula that will make you exercise, force you to meditate, eat your vegetables, take your vitamins, stop drinking so much on the weekdays (I’m talking to you, New York – you’re killing me) start your blog, write your book – anything! 

You just have to do it. 

Take one small action today and it will build the momentum for another small action tomorrow. 

Thats all. 

Just. do. it.

I guess Nike was on to something.

you can try & (maybe) fail or you can not try at all

#truth #motivation #justdoit

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Last week, I ran into a college professor at a local coffee shop. Actually, I saw her from the back of the line, stared into my phone, and prayed she didn’t notice me.

Suddenly, I had a full on flashback of our last conversation. It was my senior year of college, and I had just handed in my final. She walked me out of the classroom to say goodbye, and asked about my post grad plans. I explained how excited I was to be an actress. I had taken every acting course my college offered and had never felt an adrenaline rush greater than when I was playing a character. The further away from my own personality the bigger the rush.

Since I was graduating, I could focus on auditions. I’d probably find a part time job to pay the bills and do what I already knew I loved.

Her response? “That will be hard, but good luck.” It seemed harsh at the time, but she was sincere in her well wishes, and she was right. It would be hard.

Snapping out of my flashback, I realized where all the avoidance was coming from. If she were to say hello to me, today, I’d have no great stories of failed or funny auditions, the work that I had booked, the successes the failures, the learnings. I couldn’t even say “well, tried that, not for me.”

I didn’t even try.

At the first sign of failure, I traded the grind of acting for a steady paycheck where I could safely learn to rise and fall fail.

I wish I could tell my 22 year old self how necessary, important, and ultimately, inevitable those failures would be but there’s a lesson to be learned in everything we do — or in this case don’t do and it’s one of the most important lessons of all, for me. 

It will always feel better to fail, learn &  grow than to have never tried at all.

Completely unrelated to fear, I no longer have aspirations of being an actress but I do have aspirations.

Big ones — and I won’t allow myself to say I didn’t try. 

more on fear

“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”

-A Course in Miracles

 

That sounds nice. To feel so sure about where you will end up that you lose all anxiety sounds like a dream, and it’s true.

What I am realizing now is that it’s worth taking the time to get really clear and confident about what we want to achieve. Through this clarity, we lose the fear that tells us we can’t reach our goals. Fear, after all, is the only thing holding us back.

fear of blogging

It sounds so silly when you say the words aloud or read them on the screen.

My name is Amy and I have a fear of blogging. There really should be a support group for this. Fear.

I have had a massive fear of writing for over a year now. The truth is, I’ve probably spent more time customizing blog templates than I’ve actually spent writing. I’ve definitely spent more time thinking about writing than putting pen to paper er… fingers to keys.

Why? Fear. Fear of failure, fear of judgement, fear of invisibility and even fear of success, oddly enough.

Oh, I have every excuse you can imagine in my back pocket, if you need it.

I have no time. If I’m going to blog, I need a really well designed website. I should probably write for 6 months without anyone ever seeing it to find my voice, first. I should attend a writing workshop. I haven’t pinned enough writing tips on my pinterest board. Im not ready. No one wants to read what I have to say. Who do I think I am writing and expecting other people to care? I’ll do it tomorrow. That’s how I’ll spend my weekend. I wonder if there is anything new on my facebook feed? I think I’ll look at that instead.

I am a bottomless pit of excuses.

What did I do differently today?  Well, love crept in and I capitalized on it.

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
— John Lennon

I chose love.

How has fear held you back? and any strategies for overcoming it are always awesome. Answer in the comments below!

Thanks for reading and welcome to the blog.

XO

Amy